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I am really glad I flew to my Mom's side when I did.  She passed away at 12:50am (March 8th, 2009).  My sister was there with her, however I was not, but I did give her a kiss and told her I loved her before I left her room earlier in the evening. My sister called me and I was at the hospital in 20 minutes.  The nurse said she passed very peacefully, just like she wanted to.  I am so grateful that she is no longer suffering at all, and I know she is in a better place.

Thanks to all my extended family for your kind words, thoughts, prayers.  They mean more to me then you can know.  I will be extending my stay here to take care of family business, but will see you all soon.

I love you all

Mom with Brett, Don, me, Gail!


Mom stuff

Mar. 7th, 2009 11:49 am
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Last night I arrived at the hospital around 1am. Mom was awake, and my Niece Chantel was here keeping Mom company. She was very loopy. She knew I was here, and could talk a little bit. It is very hard for her to talk since the cancer has started to affect her breathing.

I met the night doctor and he came in and gave me a little information. After he left I said to my Mom.. "Mom, you're doctor's a hottie" That made her laugh which was great to see" So I knew she fully understood what was going on. Ohh, and he was a hot otter type.

I headed home around 2:00am and got some sleep. Was back here this morning around 8:30am.
When I got here, she had an oxygen mask on, because she was not getting enough oxygen.
She has been in and out of consciousness, however at this stage, she is unable to speak. We can see her trying to talk to us, because she opens her eyes, sees us and moves her lips, but she can not get enough air through to get sound out. It is like every breath she is gasping for air.

We are waiting for my older brother to get here. My twin and My Sister and I have already discussed the option of not starting the Chemo treatments, and to just keep her comfortable, and let nature take it's course. We are going to talk to the doctor soon to find out if further treatments will improve her quality of life, but based on what we see and hear, it probably would not make a difference. We know her wishes, and we need to abide by them, and I know that myself and my siblings are okay with that.

I will know more once my older brother arrives, and we talk to the doctor soon.

Mom in ICU

Mar. 6th, 2009 08:03 am
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My Mom has been moved to ICU. Trouble breathing. This happened about 1am. I just found out from my brother. He's sweet to not want to disturb me, but I need to know.

Will know more in an hour after he gets to the hospital.

Update mom

Mar. 5th, 2009 02:37 pm
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My brother called me and told me that he talked to the doctor, and Mom must have mis-heard him. He said she has been a little incohearent.

The doc said that it will be some months, but are not sure just how long. It depends on treatment. He said definatly not years, but not the 2-3 months she spoke. So that is promising news there, and a bit of relief for my state of mind.

I look forward to seeing her this month.
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I got a call from my brother on my way to work. He said Mom called him and wanted him at the hospital. She was put there yesterday because of the pain with her cancer. She told him that the doctors told her she only had months to live, but did not give a specific number.

I called her room after I got to work, and my brother had just arrived. She was glad to be able to tell us both at the same time. She said they were doing radiation to shrink the part of the tumor causing the pain, however, that she has 2 to 3 months left. Of course what do you say to that. My Mom put my brother on the phone, and we talked about the plan I have to visit later this month. That we are going to stay with that plan unless something dramatically changes.

I know this is going to be the last time I get to see my Mom, and I am gonna make the most of it with her. I hate the idea of seeing her in pain, since that is not the way I want to remember her, but it needs to happen.

I appreciate the great network of friends I have who are going to help me through this. It's gonna be tough, but I will get thru it.

Just give me hugs when you see me! :-)
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No new news. Probably know more today. I think the plan is for me to go home early March to basically say farewell.
Here is a photo of my twin Don, Brett (older brother), Gail (Sister), and myself.

I know he does not look like me or my twin, but he looks too much like my Dad not to be one of us.

bye bye LJ

Feb. 2nd, 2009 07:50 am
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I think it's time to just stop using LJ. By Wednesday, I will be gone from here.
Sometimes you just have to stop doing things you don't get enjoyment from.
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In response to my letter, the person who didn't vote on Prop 8 replied. (http://dhbearguy.livejournal.com/329498.html) This is an excerpt from his reply.

I do support the right of gays and even polygamists to marry.  I proudly voted against the initiative in 2000 though I had not yet realized/accepted I was gay.  However, I have always felt that marriage is an issue that belongs to the people, through their elected representatives, not the courts.  I do not feel any need for state sanction of my feelings for my partner ~ they cannot take away or diminish or augment the strength of my relationship no matter what a court or the legislature decide.  So, I have been in a quandry ~ I could not possibly vote for the initiative, but, as I discussed at length with my partner, this case will cause the most unnecessary divisiveness in our state (which it seems to have done, someone I considered a close friend is disassociating with me!)  Although I agree with the outcome (it personally benefits me) it would go against my judicial philosphy.  Do I sell myself out just because I get the benefit?  I decided just not to vote.

So my thoughts on this are....

WHAT?  Given the opportunity to vote with HIS own voice on an issues he supports... he thinks his elected representative should make the decision for him??  What if his elected representative was a uber consertivie right wing religious fanatic.  Representatives do not always make the decisions we want.  We all know that.
His Judicial philosphy is way flawed!!


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I was really saddened, and am very angry that you chose to not vote on Proposition 8. Word spread pretty fast about your decision. One thing I told you I really liked about you when I met you was your confidence.. and while your abstention on voting on Prop 8 was probably a very confident thing, I am sick to my stomach that an educated, kind, well liked, caring person with a wonderful partner would decide that discrimination is okay!


Yes on 8 has used lies all throughout their campaign, and I’m saddened that you did not see that enough to vote NO on Prop 8.


I have worked very hard the last 2 weeks volunteering with the No on 8 Camp, and am spending 14 hours on Tuesday to talk to voters, and your decision is a big slap in my face to the time and energy I have put in to make sure discrimination is not written into the California Constitution.


With that, I hope you understand that no matter what the outcome of the election is on Tuesday, I am probably not for a while going to be inclined to speak or dance with you at Sundance. I respect your right to vote your opinion. That does not mean I have to like it.  Please respect my decision to keep distance from you!


Dave Hayes


Oct. 23rd, 2008 12:51 pm
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My poor bicycle got raped last night out side of my apartment. I thought it was safe with the expensve locking devices I had on the wheels and seat, but alas, someone with the righ tools stole the handlebars, and all the shifting and breaking cables. 

Will cost about $150 to get it all replaced.  YUCK!
Lets just say, I was not a happy camper this morning, and will never leave out locked outside on my street again.
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In honor of Sea Otter Awareness Week 08, I give to you the ever cute.

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Name that LJ'r

Click Here For Photos

Who can you identify?

Post your answers if you want!!

Great fun!!
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This is an iPhone tutorial.

Did you know you cannot type the word "woof" on an iphone. Well you can, but you have to be creative.

When you try to type the word "woof", after typing the woo the f gets disabled on the keypad. When you hit the F key, the D appears. If you try to move your finger to the right when holding it down, the G appears. But the F will not.

To teach your iPhone that woof is a word you want to use, you can delete the D in wood and replace it with an F. After a few times, the phone will learn you want to use this word. However, the F will still not unlock.

BUT!! Since your phone learned the word WOOF, if you type WOOG, the phone will suggest WOOF and when you hit your space, WOOG will be replaced with WOOF.

Apple doesn't have any bears on their development team I guess.
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Apparently Manhunt's been hit in the purse.. I recieved several emails today from people who have asked to have their Manhunt accounts closed. They have received the following response from Manhunt.

Dear Member,

Thank you for contacting MANHUNT Customer Service.

Thank you for taking the time to express your concerns as we are always
happy to hear from our members.

Manhunt as a company has not and does not support any political
candidate in this or any previous election.

A statement from the founder and majority shareholder of MANHUNT

Manhunt Customer Service


There has been a depiction this week of MANHUNT being Republican.

All my life, I have never voted to the right, and have always been
generous to 20th Century Democrats, Gay and Lesbian Advocates and
Defenders, HRC, and the NGLTF.

I was arrested at the Supreme Court and FDA in Act-Up actions, and was
the founder of the Grass Roots Gay Rights Fund, which over the years has
raised more than $800K.

I was the Treasurer of Out Week magazine, which was a powerful force in
its time.

I began giving Obama donations in March 2007, and I have sent several
checks that have yet to be reported. The hat and t-shirt I wear say
"Obama for President", as does the sign in front of my house. I refuse
to live in a country that is so marred by war and hate. To me, Barack
is by far the best candidate, probably better than we deserve.

It should be known that Jonathan Crutchley's donation to McCain left the
entire Board in disbelief.

I am disappointed that we have lost some customers, and I understand the
anger. It is too bad for the web site if we lose customers, but PLEASE
never refer to me as a Republican. I consider it an offense.

At the request of the Board, Jonathan has stepped down as Chairman.

Larry Basile

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The AFI LAA ceremony for Warren Beatty was not a bad experience. It got a little slow here and there, and it was very very warm in the Kodak Theatre. I found myself nodding off a bit here and there.

My buddy Dennis Hubach scored the tickets to the event. We had Mezzanine first row seats. not too shabby at all.

There were plenty of stars on hand to speak about Warren Beatty
I know I am forgetting someone but...

Faye Dunaway, Quentin Tarantino, George McGovern, Gary Hart, Halle Berry, Jack Nicholson, Dustin Hoffman, Annette Benning, Shirley McClaine, Diane Keaton, Denver Pyle, Don Cheadle, David Carradine, Robert Downey Jr.

My most impressive speaker there live and in person was Former President Bill Clinton. I had never been in the same room with him before, so it really was a very neat experience.

The ceremony will be aired on USA on June 25th.

Spending the day at Disneyland. Weird they open all week at 8am, but today they open at 9am. LAME.
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*Update* Ken passed away at the hospital tonight. :-(

You will be missed!

A dancing friend of mine, Ken Brandow, colapsed tonight at Sundance Saloon while line dancing. I turned around to dance facing him and he was on the floor passed out. A couple of people were around him already. I went to grab my phone from my bag to call 911, and someone was already on the phone.

The DJ (A doctor) and someone else administered CPR until the SFFD and Paramedics arrived. They continued CPR and other measured to try to revive him until they took him to SF General Hospital.

Sadly, Ken passed away so young. It is a great thing that he was doing something he really loved and I was so glad to know him!


Mar. 9th, 2008 10:29 am
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I hope your Sunday is wonderful.

I find most often that on Sunday I end up at home, just doing much of nothing before noon. I read many times many of you out having brunch with this person or that person.

So if you are so inclined, I am usually available on Saturdays or Sundays for some food and hopefully great converstaion.. well except Next Sunday. LOL.
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Just got an email from my BFF Nikki Blonsky.. LOL. Well not really my BFF.. but she rocks..

In response to us seeing her when she is here next week and [livejournal.com profile] boyshapedbox being excited about meeting her....

"Hey dave, im excited about meeting him too, It would probably be best to meet at the location, i dont know it exactly yet so i will email you when i find out the exact address."

Short and sweet from her Blackberry.

Dicky.. are you really excited yet???
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It is time to head back to San Francisco... and what a perfect day to do it since it is raning here in Ft. Lauderdale.

Taking my friend Mario to Miami first, then drop the rental car, then fly through Houston.

I had a really great time on the cruise, and the fun before and after. [livejournal.com profile] dendren has some AMAZING friends, and I adore all of them. Thanks Phil for including me as part of your big cruise family.

You can see some photos at here

I do have to say however, that my most memorable moment, of course besides becoming bff's with Nikki Blonsky is meeting a devishly handsome man in Ft. Lauderdale named Jason. I could not keep my eyes off him. Want a peek? click here.
He might join me in Tampa Memorial Day weekend for the Yo Ho Hoedown

So back to SF I go. Hope you all had a great weekend.


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