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I got a call from my brother on my way to work. He said Mom called him and wanted him at the hospital. She was put there yesterday because of the pain with her cancer. She told him that the doctors told her she only had months to live, but did not give a specific number.

I called her room after I got to work, and my brother had just arrived. She was glad to be able to tell us both at the same time. She said they were doing radiation to shrink the part of the tumor causing the pain, however, that she has 2 to 3 months left. Of course what do you say to that. My Mom put my brother on the phone, and we talked about the plan I have to visit later this month. That we are going to stay with that plan unless something dramatically changes.

I know this is going to be the last time I get to see my Mom, and I am gonna make the most of it with her. I hate the idea of seeing her in pain, since that is not the way I want to remember her, but it needs to happen.

I appreciate the great network of friends I have who are going to help me through this. It's gonna be tough, but I will get thru it.

Just give me hugs when you see me! :-)

Date: 2009-03-05 09:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djmadadam.livejournal.com
*HUGS* to you. I do not look forward to the day I have to face this with both my parents. I am glad that I, too, have a brother.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Hugs back to ya.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aeropart.livejournal.com
This is the worst news ever! I'm a random reader and I'm sorry to hear about your mom. *internet hug* I hope nothing drastic happens before you get to see her!

all the best!

Date: 2009-03-05 09:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks so much, I really appreciate that.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] momshapedbox.livejournal.com
Big hugs on my tippy toes to you all the way from Windsor,CT



Date: 2009-03-05 09:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks Sue!! Your my extended Mom and I love you for that!
Edited Date: 2009-03-05 09:23 pm (UTC)

Date: 2009-03-05 09:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] beg1n.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry ber.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks hunni. Love you.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ronm.livejournal.com
Virtual hugs until I can give you the real thing, honey.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks. I will be out tomorrow at Midnight Sun for drinks after work. Hope to see you there.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djrottenrobbie.livejournal.com
My mom died 17 days ago, so I know where you are right now. You are a good son and you will make it through. It will be tough, but you have a great attitude. My thoughts will be with you. I know this might sound trite, but please let me know if there is anything I can do to support you.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
So sorry to hear about you Mom Robbie. I must have missed that while I was on vacation. Hugs to you.. and it does not sound trite. I appreciate that so much. hugs

Date: 2009-03-05 10:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djrottenrobbie.livejournal.com
No, you didn't miss it, I just haven't told too many people. Thanks for the hugs.

Here's my mom last May watching the sunset in Maui

and here is my mom's favorite author, Armistead Maupin reading to her, bedside just before last Christmas.

Mom's are pretty special. I hope you get to spend some time with your mom. I'm sorry there is distance between you. I was fortunate that my mom lived in Napa. She is the reason Eric and I stayed here all these years. Now we are free to move around for the first time in our 12 year relationship.

xo rr

Date: 2009-03-05 09:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] beardenjohn.livejournal.com
If there's anything either Steve or I can do for you, just say the word.

You're in our thoughts and prayers.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks guys, that means a bunch, I will let you know. I Might need some help from all my friends.. but won't ask unless I really do.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bigreddee.livejournal.com
Until I *do* see you next, sending you big virtual hugs, D. I'm very sorry to hear this.

Date: 2009-03-05 09:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks so much D!! You and all my friends mean so much to me to help me through this. Hugs.


Date: 2009-03-05 10:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rickshaw.livejournal.com
Thoughts and prayers are with you, Dave.

Re: Hugs...

Date: 2009-03-05 10:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks Rick. NIce seeing you briefly last night

Date: 2009-03-05 10:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pharmbear.livejournal.com
Dave, I am so sorry to hear about this. I also lost my Mom to cancer 9 years ago and not a day goes by when I don't think of her. It is very sad. My biggest hugs to you.

Date: 2009-03-05 10:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks so much Mike.. I so appreciate that, and sorry to hear about that as well. hugs.

Date: 2009-03-05 10:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] akil.livejournal.com
So sorry to hear this, Dave. Let me know if there's anything I can do. A big hug awaits. :)

Date: 2009-03-05 10:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] castrowoof.livejournal.com
Big hugs Dave. Please let me know if I can do anything.

Date: 2009-03-05 11:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nfguy.livejournal.com
Big Hugs Dave. Really sorry to hear this, and hope for the best for you and your family.

Date: 2009-03-05 11:21 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] apparentparadox
Glad the subsequent news was a bit better, but it's still a hard thing for you to have to deal with. Wish I were there to give you hugs in person.

Date: 2009-03-06 12:13 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dhbearguy.livejournal.com
Thanks Tim, that would be so nice!! hugs.

Date: 2009-03-06 04:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] greatbearmd.livejournal.com
I know I am not in the capacity to do much more, but you are in my thoughts. Having been through this myself, it's not easy, of course, but honestly, all the well-wishing from afar did help.

I am glad that your later news was a sizable relief. I wish you and your mom all the best in this difficult time.


Date: 2009-03-06 05:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] backawayslowly.livejournal.com
Hang in there, Dave.

Date: 2009-03-06 06:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] excessor.livejournal.com
Big electronic hugs to you and your family.

Date: 2009-03-06 12:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hyperlink27.livejournal.com

Date: 2009-03-06 04:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eireangus.livejournal.com
Hi sweetie, I am JUST getting a chance to look at LJ. I am so sorry about your mom :-( You know I am thinking about you and her and your whole family... Keeping everyone in my prayers... Keep your hope up and do your best... I am here for you... Love you and hugs.


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